Sharing the good instead of the bad

Michael and my anniversary was on Sunday. When the day hit, I just couldn't believe that we were already here, celebrating one year of marriage. This year has been full of love, ups and downs, good and not so good times, but such a fun journey to our forever together. 

Each day, I feel like Michael and I are growing closer and closer together. The happy times and not so happy times over the past year have made our relationship stronger and our friendship even better. I truly think that if you start your marriage with a firm foundation, that when those hard times come up, you can tackle them together, as a team, working together towards the outcome you both want. 

Is marriage always easy? No. Will you find posts about those hard days on my blog? Not always. I feel like as women human beings, it is easy to vent about those little things that can drive us crazy rather than boast about the good that is happening. It kind of reminds me of the news. The newscasters are there to share the news, which almost always is bad. From burglaries, fires, corruption, and so on. I can't remember the last time I turned on the news and the whole hour or 30 minutes was all good news. It's not human nature. We feel like sharing the good is gloating or boasting, when in reality, the good is what should be shared because it is the most important parts. Yes, we learn from the hard, unexpected times. Those times make our marriage stronger because of the lessons learned, but when I look back at my blog, at my marriage, I want to remember the good over the bad, 100%. 

He makes me smile...one of my favorite things about him

We can't always plan what is going to happen in our marriages. When Michael had his accident, it wasn't expected. We had to jump into the situation with our best feet forward, supporting and encouraging one another along the way. I know that as we continue on our journey in marriage it's not always going to be sunny days. We will be tested, our marriage will be tested, but I know with the foundation that we are building today, that we will overcome any obstacle that is put in our way, hand in hand, guiding and supporting on another. 

SMH and YOLOing to the BSB

ACRONYMS. They seem to be THE thing right now and I'm having the hardest time keeping up. So I got to thinking about this post and had my real life bestie Casey who blogs over at That's a Lot of Stuff help me since she teaches high school and was my number one letter writer from 6th grade on. I think I realized I was officially "old" when I had to search "that internet" as my grandparents call it to figure out what SMH was. That's just not ok. I went through everything I could think of. Still mad here, so many headaches, so much hate, I just couldn't make it work with the context that the "kids" were using it in. 

So we put together a list help out any of you who also may not be exactly sure what these things means. So sit back, relax, drink some wine, and let's GTPS (no clue). Press play and enjoy. 

Kids these days: 
SMH: shaking my head
Ootd: Outfit of the day
Oomf: one of my friends
OTL: on the low (had to look that one up)
Notd: nail of the day
WIDN: what I'm doing now
WIWW: what I'm wearing Wednesday
YOLO- the kiddies excuse to harm themselves and then say they were just livin. (I was going to make a Dazed and Confused reference but not sure if people not from my town know that movie)
WTF- do I need to go there? later changed to WTH for those awesome parents on fb to use.
LMAO- Laughing my a off....later changed again by parents to LMBO or laughing my butt off.
TBT- which we all have come to love
WCW- Woman crush wednesday
#- which always reminds me of #pow from American Idol
HMU- Hit me up
IDK: I don't know 

Us as kids:
LOL- which is still around today Laugh out loud or as my mom put it Lots of love. either way
LYLAS- love ya like a sis (it seems I had lots of sis' back in the day) later followed by LYLASCUR (my english teacher hated us)
OMG- oh my gosh or at least that's what I used it for
BFFE-later followed by BFF, BFFFFFFFFFEEEE- Best friends forEver
S- remember it was a big S with sorry so short or sloppy written using that S
WBASP- meaning if you don't write me back next period we are no longer friends
SOS- which was used in letters so that Some One Special didn't know you were obsessed with them. 
URAQT- you are a cutie
Bsb- Backstreet boys because this was one of the only acronyms I used as a crazed teenager.

I think it's safe to say that ours were way cooler than the cool kids these days. Or so says the 26 year old lady who is married, teaches, and blogs. What other ones did we forget? I know there are more. 

49 years from now

Yesterday was Michael and my first year anniversary. I'm still not sure where the year went but I love that we have reached this milestone together. I was thinking about what is still yet to come for us and our future and related it to my grandparents. They recently celebrated their 50^th wedding anniversary together. To see pictures from their wedding and to watch them today makes my heart so happy. They have a love that is truer than true and you can tell, even now when they bicker about silly things, how much they love each other. They inspire me every day in my marriage to Michael and the relationship that I hope we always continue to have. To imagine Michael and I 49 years down the road makes me giggle but also makes me giddy.

49 years from now....

I picture Michael and I sitting out on a boat, hopefully a pretty big one that I can sit under an umbrella on, with him running all over the boat trying to reel in the perfect  fish, paying no attention to where I’m sitting or what I’m doing. The man loves to fish, and I love to watch him and the excitement that he gets when he catches “the biggest ones he’s ever caught”.

I can see us at our home with lots of land for him to take our son or perhaps our son in law hunting on the way that his dad has always done with him. I can see them going out for a big hunt, and then coming in to make dinner because lord knows that even 50 years from now, I still won’t like half the things he wants to eat and probably still won’t get the hang of that cooking concept that so many of you are so good at. I never learned that important skill in our nonexistent newlywed classes. 

I think about watching him laying on the carpet in our living room, joking with our children while playing with our precious grandchildren who by then may be young adults themselves. I can see in my head our house, filled with pictures the way my grandparents are, of such happy, wonderful memories of the most amazing gift that could ever be given to us, love and laughter.

I look forward to watching our future children grow into people that we are proud of and who represent two people who came from such different places, yet met and fell in love, and became partners for life.

ohhh hey young partners... circa 2006. 

I know 50 years is a long ways away. There is so much to look forward to between then and now, but I’m looking forward to spending the next 49 working towards that 50^th year mark with an amazing man who I am forever grateful came into my life. For some reason he loves me for the ridiculous, crazy, emotional, mess of a person I am now and probably will be 50 years from now and I'm forever thankful and grateful to have him as my husband and partner. 

Here's to the next 49 and a lifetime of laughter and happiness.